Finding Support After Veteran Suicide: A Comprehensive Guide
Losing a loved one to suicide creates a unique grief journey that can feel isolating and overwhelming. For families of veterans who have experienced this profound loss, knowing where to turn for support is crucial. This guide provides practical resources and information to help survivors navigate the difficult days, weeks, and months following a veteran suicide.
Immediate Support Resources in Brisbane
Crisis Support Helplines
When you're facing the immediate aftermath of loss, these 24/7 resources are available:
Emergency Services: 000 for immediate danger situations
Queensland Mental Health Co-Responder Team: 1300 642 255
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636
Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467
Open Arms (Veterans & Families Counselling): 1800 011 046
The First 72 Hours
The initial days after loss can be overwhelming. Consider these immediate steps:
Connect with a trusted person who can help with practical matters
Contact a GP for immediate mental health support and referrals
Reach out to veteran support organizations like RSL Queensland or Mates4Mates
Consider applying for The Flannel Project's SOS Flannel Card for immediate, practical support
The SOS Flannel Card Program
The Flannel Project's SOS (Survivors of Suicide) Flannel Card program provides trauma-informed support specifically designed for the first four weeks after losing a veteran to suicide. This Brisbane-based initiative focuses on three key pillars:
Choice
The program offers personalized essential services tailored to your specific needs, including:
Mental health support (up to $400)
Practical stabilization assistance (up to $300)
GP and allied health services (up to $200)
Child and dependent support (up to $100)
Connection
Grief can be isolating. The SOS Flannel Card program helps connect survivors with:
Professional counseling services
Group therapy options
Community support networks
Communication
The program facilitates crucial dialogue between survivors and support systems, helping you:
Communicate your needs effectively
Access appropriate services
Navigate complex support systems during a difficult time
To apply for the SOS Flannel Card program, visit www.theflannelproject.com or contact The Flannel Project directly.
Local Brisbane Support Groups
Connecting with others who understand your experience can be invaluable. Brisbane offers several support groups specifically for those affected by suicide:
StandBy Support After Suicide
This free service provides practical and emotional support to anyone bereaved or impacted by suicide. Their Brisbane coordinators can connect you with local resources and peer support groups.
Phone: 1300 727 247
Website: standbysupport.com.au
Survivors of Suicide Bereavement Support Association (SOSBSA)
SOSBSA runs regular support meetings in Brisbane for those who have lost someone to suicide.
Phone: 1300 767 022
Website: sosbsa.org.au
Compassionate Friends Queensland
This organization supports families after the death of a child of any age, including adult children who were veterans.
Phone: 1300 064 068
Website: compassionatefriendsqld.org.au
Professional Counseling Services in Brisbane
Professional mental health support is crucial after experiencing a traumatic loss. Several Brisbane services specialize in grief and trauma:
Open Arms - Veterans & Families Counselling
Provides free and confidential counseling to veterans and their families.
Location: Level 1, 490 Upper Edward Street, Spring Hill
Phone: 1800 011 046
Headspace Brisbane
Offers mental health support for young people aged 12-25 who may be affected by family loss.
Location: 115 Chalk Street, Lutwyche
Phone: (07) 3370 3900
Brisbane Centre for Grief and Bereavement Counselling
Specializes in grief counseling for various types of loss, including suicide.
Location: Various locations across Brisbane
Phone: (07) 3062 7707
Community Connection Opportunities
Building connections within the community can provide ongoing support and purpose:
The Flannel Flower Memorial Garden
The Flannel Project is developing a memorial garden in Brisbane dedicated to veterans lost to suicide. This space will offer a place for reflection, remembrance, and healing. Stay updated on this project through The Flannel Project's website.
Wear a Flan for Shan
Join this annual community event on June 21, 2025, at Orleigh Park West End, Brisbane. This 5km walk brings together those affected by veteran suicide to raise awareness and funds for support programs. The event features live music, food, and a supportive community atmosphere.
10 Before 10 Initiative
Participate in this monthly fundraising initiative where participants walk 10,000 steps before 10am on the 10th of each month and donate $10. This initiative supports The Flannel Project's SOS Flannel Card program.
Creating Your Support Network
Building a personal support network is essential for long-term healing. Consider including:
Trusted family and friends who can provide emotional support
Mental health professionals specializing in grief and trauma
Peer support connections through support groups
Practical support for day-to-day tasks
Community connections through events and volunteer opportunities
Resources for Children and Young People
Children and young people affected by veteran suicide require specialized support:
Kids Helpline
Free, private, and confidential phone and online counseling service for young people aged 5 to 25.
Phone: 1800 55 1800
Website: kidshelpline.com.au
Headspace
Mental health support specifically for young people aged 12-25.
Phone: 1800 650 890
Website: headspace.org.au
Grief Resource Hub for Parents
Resources to help parents support children through grief after losing a family member.
Website: childhoodgrief.org.au
Self-Care Strategies
While supporting others, it's crucial to care for yourself:
Acknowledge your grief as a natural response to loss
Establish routines to provide structure during chaotic times
Practice mindfulness through meditation or breathing exercises
Maintain physical health through nutrition, sleep, and gentle exercise
Set boundaries around your energy and emotional capacity
Connect with nature in Brisbane's many parks and natural spaces
Moving Forward
Healing after losing a veteran to suicide is not about "moving on" but rather about finding ways to integrate the loss into your life while honoring your loved one's memory:
Memorial activities can provide comfort and connection
Advocacy work can create meaning from loss
Community involvement can foster belonging and purpose
Professional support can help navigate complex emotions
Self-compassion is essential throughout the journey
How The Flannel Project Can Help
The Flannel Project was founded in Brisbane specifically to support survivors of veteran suicide. Our mission is to provide practical, emotional, and community support during the most difficult times. We understand the unique challenges faced by those who have lost veterans to suicide.
Through our SOS Flannel Card program, community events, and the upcoming Flannel Flower Memorial Garden, we aim to create a network of support for survivors throughout Brisbane and Queensland.
To learn more about our services or to get involved, visit www.theflannelproject.com or contact us directly.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 000. For 24/7 crisis support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
